How do you get along with different types of people?

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How to Get Along with Others Well

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There are a lot of different people in the world, but despite our differences we all want to get along. Humans are social beings, and we enjoy being treated nicely. Getting along with someone, regardless of their passions, isn't about being their best friend or sharing all their hobbies. It is about treating people with respect and care.


Getting Along with Anyone

  1. Be a good listener.To start a conversation, it is important to listen first, especially when you are in a group. Don’t indulge yourself in instant chat when you have just arrived. First, examine the situation and the conversation, then say whatever you deem fit. It is better to say something substantial, rather than meaningless banter. So it is better to listen to what the conversation is about before speaking.
  2. Don't try to change people.It is not your job to change anyone else. It is not in your power to change anyone else. Let other people live how they want to live. You can only change how you interact with people. You cannot change them. If you do not like how someone acts, you can arrange things so that you interact with them as little as possible. You can always maintain a good attitude around them so that your relationship with them might change.
  3. Keep your sense of humor.A little laughter goes a long way, and a smile eases tensions, whereas a frown can create tension. If someone teases you, try to laugh it off. If someone is frowning, smile at them. Be mindful of your countenance (facial expression). If you are persistently cheerful and optimistic, people will cheer up when they see you coming.
  4. State outright that you want to get along.Some people do not take hints. Some people do not read body language. For these people, it really works to just say with a cheerful face and voice, "I really want us to work well together. I'll help you and back you up, and you help me and back me up."
  5. Radiate positivity.Always remember that how you project your feelings affects the people within your proximity. It almost has a ripple effect on the people around you. Therefore, it would be advisable to remain thoughtful of how you conduct yourself and deal with others around you. In other words, do not allow yourself to take out your negative emotions on others around you.
  6. Give genuine compliments.People love compliments, especially when they are genuine. Don't be so proud as to never congratulate someone on their work or ideas. A good compliment is sincere and succinct. No one like a brown-noser or a suck-up, but no one likes people who seem better than everyone else either.
    • One good compliment per conversation is a good benchmark to shoot for.
  7. Do things for others.Being kind is its own reward. It could be as simple as bringing in doughnuts for people or offering to help someone who is struggling to carry something. This will show you care about other people and this will make people want to be around you.

Having Good Manners

  1. Know that good manners and polite demeanor can help you get along with anyone.Think of your manners as the coat of paint on your personality-- if you keep it clean and pleasant, it leaves a wonderful first impression when you meet someone.
  2. Make eye contact and smile when talking to someone.This tells them that you are interested in what they have to say and want to be comfortable around them. When meeting someone for the first time, make good eye contact and shake their hand firmly as you introduce yourself.
  3. Always smile; that way people won’t think you are serious and hard to get along with.
  4. Treat others how you wish to be treated.The golden rule is still the most important rule for getting along with others. Think of how you would like your friends to act around you. If you treat people with love and respect, they will treat you with the same.
  5. Never say anything about someone you wouldn't say to him in person.Gossip has a way of traveling around, and hearing that someone has been speaking ill of you behind your back is a sure-fire way to ruin a friendship. If you wouldn't say it to them in person, it is best not to say it at all.
  6. Speak in a clear, confident manner.Be confident. Don't let it show that you're trying to be liked. Talk loud and clear, speaking slowly enough to get your words out without mumbling. You don't need to yell, interject, or rush words out -- take your time and make each word count.
  7. Understand that people make mistakes.Forgiveness is not only polite, it leads to stronger friendships. No one is perfect, so judging someone for a fault is not fair when you expect them to forgive your mistakes too. Be willing to accept an apology and try and think of things through someone else's perspective -- were they really trying to be hurtful, or did they make an honest mistake?
    • Having the humility to give and accept forgiveness is a great way to show people that you are a reasonable, kind person.

Getting Along with People you Disagree With

  1. Discuss and negotiate with others when your opinions differ.You do not have to completely avoid issues you disagree on. You do need to refrain from yelling, judging, or blocking out people you disagree with. There are very few people who will agree with you on everything, so it important to learn how to have a civil, polite argument or debate.
  2. If people have troubles, help them.Then, when you have troubles, they might help you, too.
  3. Avoid making quarrels personal.While you can have a nice discussion, about political differences, for example, saying that their view makes them "a bad person" is a perfect way to ruin a relationship.
    • Remember that almost everyone disagrees on something -- this doesn't mean you can't get along.
  4. Look for common ground.While you might have different ideas on who should be president, try and bond over a common topic or hobby. Find discussion topics and activities that you can both enjoy instead of focusing on the things that divide you.
  5. Agree with them when appropriate.Even on contentious topics like religion or politics, there are likely to be a few things that you both can agree on. Don't be afraid to agree with someone when they make a good point -- this will make it easier to keep the conversation civil.

Community Q&A

  • Question
    My granddaughter only calls me when she wants something. What can I do about this?
    wikiHow Contributor
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    Try calling her! Maybe she has a busy schedule. Also, tell her how you feel, it's possible she doesn't even realize she's doing this. It's always best to get these things out in the open with honest communication.
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    How do I get my brother to leave me alone?
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    Try understanding, from your brother's perspective, why he is nagging you. Then, compromise on the situation. If he wants something, come up with a solution. If he is being just overall annoying, then bribe him with candy, or anything to just go away.
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    People at school always make me seem like a rude person because of my opinion. What should I do?
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    My brothers are just annoying and rude to me, what should I do about it?
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    I totally understand! First, talk to them (without yelling, blaming, or attitude) about how their behavior is making you feel. Talk about a solution, and ask them to stop. If you get their attention for this long, then ask if they understand or want anything in return. If this doesn't work and you've tried a couple different times, talk to a parent or trusted adult about getting them to stop.
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    How can I talk to others?
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    Make eye contact and be very friendly. Talk about things you might have in common and try to get to know the other person better.
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    What should I do if I argue with my friend?
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    Have a calm conversation with your friend about what happened and what you both feel. Either resolve your differences or agree to disagree. Don't let small arguments come in the way of your friendship.
  • Question
    I find myself always have negative thoughts of others who do me wrong, what can I do about this?
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    A complete stranger once turned to me and said: "you're ugly". That's when I realized... I don't care about total strangers. There will always be people who do you wrong, no matter what you do or don't do. It's OK to feel angry or upset about that, but if you hang on to those feelings, you will have them forever. Nobody wants to be angry their entire lives. What you do is tell them off. If your friend ate the last cupcake even though they knew it was kept aside for you, tell him firmly but without raising your voice, that he was wrong and his actions hurt you. These actions reduce the friendship, at the risk of those who wronged you.
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